Childfrey or a life without children is a growing current that threatens us all with lonely old age. Well, seriously - this is the principled position of many young and not very people regarding the need for procreation. We decided to collect the main tenets of childfree activists and look at them with different eyes.
Children are terrible: they are helpless, require constant attention, limit life and interfere with their careers
Difficult to argue. But! The 21st century is in the courtyard, and all modern moms enjoy the benefits of high-speed Internet and actively communicate on forums and in social networks. No, no, they are not only looking for puree recipes and talk about how many times their kids have augmented them. Joint events, walks, meetings on interests will decorate difficult everyday life of mothers. And after 2-3 years all the “decree-makers” will again become accountants, teachers, judges, doctors, managers and even investigators. Now imagine what kind of career you can “stir up” with such a circle of close acquaintances!
Children can inherit my faults.
And they may not inherit - it is not we who decide, but the nature and the sets of our chromosomes. There are no flaws only in the saints, and we all get along well with our height and weight, lip thickness and chest size, education, development and abilities. Moreover, everything in life can be changed: the size of the breast - with the help of an operation, the level of development - with the help of a good school and university.
I do not want to become the mother of the new Hitler or Chikatillo
If you are going to raise a child in a dog house, instead of cartoons, show Emmanuel, beat 3-4 times a day and feed with raw meat - then yes, it is better to abstain. A child with a good upbringing, growing up in normal conditions, will become just a good person in the future.
I do not want children, I do not have maternal instinct
Appetite comes with eating, instinct appears around the fifth or sixth month of pregnancy. Man is more developed, but still an animal. And in animals (we recall biology), the instincts of motherhood are also not eternal, but they manifest themselves during the period of growing offspring, after which they disappear safely. By the way, childfree among animals is not noticed.
What if my theoretical child does not want me to give birth to him?
So what is it worth getting consent? We are writing a statement: one copy to the maternity hospital, the second to the housing office, waiting for an answer and deciding. But seriously - in life a lot is solved for us and without us. Let's imagine if, for this reason, Einstein and Popov, Edison and the Wright brothers, Da Vinci and Tchaikovsky did not come into the world. We would all live in dugouts, sleep on rags and burn a torch, confessing the principles of free relations for long evenings.
There are so many people on the planet
And who so decided? Marya Petrovna, a retired biologist or another "green" activist John, crucifying himself before entering the American parliament? Nature is smarter than them combined - she herself “regulates” how many people need to give birth. It has long been observed that after epidemics and wars, large families come into the "fashion". During periods of stability, it is considered normal to have 1-2 children. This is no accident: it is the influence of biorhythms, the subconscious of other factors beyond our control. So relax - nature itself will decide everything.
I have no right to have children in a world where there are a lot of orphans
Not a problem at all - we become volunteers in the Baby House or a shelter, help with what we can and give kindness to children. It will be more efficient and better than spreading empty statements. Well, the ideal option is to adopt a child. On one unfortunate orphan will be less, plus the most do not have to give birth. And the principles are preserved, and the good deed is done.
I grew up in poverty and I do not want a child like that
Do you live in a crooked hut? Do you eat "treat" from the nearest garbage can? Do you spend all the money? Hardly. It is foolish to consider poverty the inability to buy a child "iPhone" instead of a regular phone. And the world will not forgive you, if you, because of your principles, don’t give life to a new scientist, artist, inventor, writer, or just a good, kind person.
Comments
What nonsense? If it were not for them, so others would have made their discoveries, took to the air and so on. Dumbest argument. In contrast, you can bring another. If Hitler's mother had an abortion, it would be a great blessing for humanity. Everyone on abortion!
Do you even know how she solves this problem?
Yes, infant mortality is about 50%, child mortality is 20-30%. Any serious infection is almost a guaranteed death.
No premature-freak-down-dtspshniki did not survive in principle.
So nature yes - regulated. Do you agree to take it all? Remember, out of your 3 children will survive 1.
